Being married to a man that is in the military can add extra stress to a relationship that probably already has to deal with all the other daily stresses that all couples have to deal with. Some of the things that add more stress would be the separation if your husband is deployed, another could be being stationed thousands of miles away from all your family and old friends, all of this and more can add a lot of emotion stress if you are a military wife. If you can learn to recognize what is stressing you out you will be able to help improve your life and combat the stress better.
You really need to be able to find the true source of the problem that might be making your life feel so tense and stressful. This is the very first step in helping yourself fight off the stress. It's a really good idea if you start keeping a journal for yourself. Keep track of all of your thoughts when you are feeling stressed out is a good way to see what it is exactly that's bothering you. Another thing you can do is to talk to someone you really trust, even if it's an old friend over the phone that you no longer live by.
If you choose to keep a journal it's a good idea to read back your different entries at later dates and then circle or highlight things that seem to be repeated themes or key things that might trigger the stress. After you see these things you might want to talk with someone in your family and see if they can shed any light on it as well so that you can narrow it down even further.
You must find some sort of support that is in your immediate area. You should get in touch with your local military family support agency. They can help you find support groups that are on the base or even in your local community. If can get together with other women who are also married to military men it's going to immediately help you get rid of some of your stress. By venting with others who feel the same way is going to help you cope better with your stress.
You should also try to attend different functions that deal with the deployment of your husband. There is usually some sort of event held before and after they are deployed and this can be formal or informal. The events will help you get in touch with other wives whose husbands are being sent away with your husband and they can become an immediate support for you. Make sure to share information so that you can get together for other social events while your husbands are gone. This type of relationship could even turn into a friendship as well.
You need to make sure that you find something to do to occupy your time while your husband is gone. You can't use the time to sit around worrying and thinking about the fact he's gone. You should consider taking up a hobby or getting involved with a variety of base events there might be. Get plenty of exercise and get involved in sports if you like sports. Take classes to learn a new skill or hobby, this will not only keep you busy, but again it's a way to meet other people.
Make sure that you have an open line of communication with your husband. Make sure that you talk to him about his deployment and what kind of work he might be doing while he is going. The more educated you are the less likely you are going to be as stressed out.
You also should be able to find a way in which you can be in communication with your husband while he is gone. Of course it depends upon what he is doing and where he's at but you should be able to write to him or even send him emails. Find out if you can send emails, because this is a far faster way in which to message him.