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Creating a Life You Love - How to Overcome Being Shy or Self Conscious!

Being shy or self conscious can affect a lot of different people and for a variety of different reasons. There are some people who are very insecure about how they look, about their personality, how smart they are or may not be and even about the kind of job they have. There are others who feel self conscious only when they are in certain kinds of situations or are around certain kinds of people.

Whatever it might be, being self conscious can really be uncomfortable and for some people it can even be debilitating. This can be a psychological challenge for a lot of people to try and get over. Even though there are things that a person can do externally the most important thing to do is try and change how your mind works.

You first need to understand the facts, that the feeling of self consciousness usually happens when you assume that people are paying more attention to something about you than they really are, this is called the “spotlight effect”. You need to be able to understand and recognize that you really are not being watched constantly in order to help you get rid of these feelings.

You should also try your best to decrease any incidences where this kind of feeling might happen. A big reason for feeling self conscious is because a person goes somewhere simply unprepared. For instance, if you go to a meeting or even a class and you are not prepared you can easily start feeling self conscious. So you should avoid this by making sure that you are prepared for any kind of situation where you might be tested in some manner.

You always need to do your best to try and keep a positive outlook on things. If you are filled with negative thoughts it's going to affect you in a lot of different ways. Not only could it lower how you feel about yourself and your self worth, but other people are going to sense the negativity and they are going to respond to you in a negative fashion as well. This is going to increase your feelings of being self conscious.

You need to learn to fight the fears that you have. As hard as it might be to face your self consciousness straight on, you do need to realize that a lot of the fears that you have are truly psychological and when you understand that it can help you to overcome them. Remember, than usually when you are feeling self conscious, most people in reality truly are not noticing you as much as you believe that they are.

For an example if you happen to be afraid to eat in front of people, here is a good way to prove to yourself that no one cares about your eating habits, go to a buffet once you have finished your first plate, go back for seconds. More than likely the people you are with are not going to ridicule you for getting more, this should make it easier for you to realize they are not really paying attention to your eating but more to you for who you are, a person, just like them.

Look at it this way, if all else fails, what is the worst that can happen? If you think they might laugh at you or they might talk behind your back, in reality where is that really hurting who you really are? Is it really that bad or that important? After all, does it really matter all that much what people think? Learn to recognize that what people think really can't hurt who you are. If you can understand how insignificant and how unimportant it all is, it will make it a lot easier for you to deal with any self consciousness you might have.

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